That Kind of Girl

So, if she is with a boy,  then either they are in   a relationship or she is that kind of girl.

You know the world is bad outside,  so she must stay home.  The world has filthy eyes, so she must dress properly.  She is the weaker sex.  She can't fight it on her own. She can't live on her own.  She needs a man with her,  to protect her, finance her, love her, and if she can't get a man.  She might be that kind of girl.
It will definitely be her fault,  always. 

If she doesn't follow the norms,  she is that kind of girl...

See,  my dear dear and dear society,  yes she is indeed that kind of girl.  That kind who knows how to deal with the world on her own terms.  That kind who knows how to acne the eyes of those who look down upon her.  That kind who seeks financial independence rather than digging upon someone else's pocket.

And yes yes,  that kind who befriends a guy,  coz maybe all other girls around her are busy trying to fit into society's norms and she don't feel at home with them. 
But she also doesn't look down upon them coz she know it's not even their fault at first place. 

She happens to be the brave kind.  You know what, cowards always had problem with the braves. 

She is that kind who listens to all the shit people spill out of their mouth to pull her down. 

Why do you need a job. Just marry and live happily.
Why do you hang out with boys. You know they have wrong intentions.
Don't dress like that.  Society is not good. 

See, do you ever take medicine for headache if you have back pain?  If there is something wrong with the society, it needs to be fixed,  not her.

How can we fix the society !! It's impossible!! You talk nonsense!! Everyone is not same!!

Well,  society isn't some abstract term.  It's just me and you. We form it.  This is the fundamental thing. Isn't it ?
So,  fix yourself and we are done. I know it's not that simple at the ground level.  But atleast it would make it a place worth living for that kind of girl.

And one thing to all the men, if you call yourself the stronger sex, whatever role you are in, a father, a brother, a friend,  a boyfriend,  a husband,  a relative or anything else.  If you are brave enough. Trust her a little.  Trust in her dreams,  her strength, her choice and her conduct.  Be her guide if she goes wrong. Don't impose yourself upon her. Let her learn herself,  nobody learns without commiting mistakes. But as men you must feel proud to watch her scaling the heights. She don't have much inspiration.  There ain't much girls doing this.  Still,  if she is choosing to be the one,  push her up.  Strong people use their strength to support others and not to pull them down. 

I am not asking for any special treatment of her.  Just don't restrict her from something you won't restrict yourself.  If she chooses a way,  let her walk a little. 

You know labels like that kind of girl are often tagged by those who never had the courage to do it themselves.  And even mostly women do not support other women doing better and differently than them. That's why I said men's role becomes crucial here.  If you happen to be in her life,  do support her whichever way you could.

See, I know and understand the concern you have when you stop her from doing something that involves a risk of possible harm,  but then you won't be everywhere always.  She will have to do it on her own one day Or the other. Why not prepare her today. Let her start from little things,  she will develop that strong character gradually. But restraining will only make her dependent and keep her weak always. 

See syncing lips on Tiktok is fine.  Every girl wants to be a model. We have had enough of models, can we have some role models now ? If she chooses to be one,  let her be...

And don't worry your freedom won't make her that kind of girl.  But she would definitely be saved from becoming one...

©MANJUL JAGOTRA

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